(Hint: If it bothers you to the point of madness that one of your ladies is seeing other men, you may be closer to monogamy than you think.) Dating multiple partners in the microcosm of your employment biosphere or local after-work habitat can lead to an unsafe imbalance in the environment.
Again, in theory, women may agree to be members of your far-flung tribe of lovers, but proximity breeds territoriality, and has the potential to put your sex life, your happiness, your safety Really, do we even have to remind you about this one? A) It’s the right thing to do, and B) karma a way of hunting bad dogs down.
The game is a blast for both parties involved – until a woman finds herself wondering why the man who was “crazy for her” and “couldn’t get enough of her” has poofed after a few rolls in the hay.
Girl’s Game Changer: In order the separate the man who actually DOES fall in love with you at first sight and CAN go the distance from the players, a woman must pace the relationship.
You’re young, reasonably attractive and exclusivity is not on your agenda—or at least, it’s not for now. Two of the seven deadly sins are lust and gluttony. Just as when a girl says, “No,” when she’s not feeling in the moment and some misguided guys interpret it as a red flag to his bull, when certain women hear, “No relationship,” it triggers a, “Not now, but I can change him,” mechanism in their psyches. If she’s looking for a commitment and you knowingly proceed so you have something to play with for a while, you might be risking a "Bobbitt" in your future, and you kind of deserve it. Don’t leave souvenirs of your sexcapades around for others to find.
For you, the canine life is not a viable option since juggling multiple relationships is akin to juggling knives, and if you're not careful, you might end up with a dagger protruding from your toe... So maybe you’re no Boy Scout, but if you believe in keeping your karma at least nominally clean, dating, hooking up—or whatever you want to call it—shouldn’t be about how many notches you can carve in the bedpost. So, here’s how to sow your wild oats without being a (man) ho.
He thought he was "teasing" her while, in fact, he was digging his own grave. That the witchy woman just put her evil spell on me and played me like a fiddle. I take full responsibility for losing that woman and I will not make the same mistake again, but that didn't convince me that playing mind games is the way to go! If you like this article, you should download my FREE 45 page ebook - The So Suave Guide to Women and Dating.
By the way, my first date with this woman ended with a hug, the second ended with a kiss, and the third ended in her bed. Call me naive, but I truly believe that women are looking for more-or-less the same things we do: I guess I'm rambling a bit, but the point of all this is simple: You want to build your relationship gradually. It's packed with simple yet powerful tips to help you become a virtual superstar with women.
But from my practice, here are four of the most frequent games I see men playing: 1) The “play to lay” game.
If your hero/role model is Californication’s Hank Moody, you may not just be playing the field, you may have deeper intimacy issues that might be worth addressing. Let potential lovers know up front that as much as you may be into them, you are not into having a one and only. (Well, strictly speaking, that’s not true, but in this situation, it can be a mood killer for your date.) Women dish. Likewise, if you’ve got several “friends with benefits,” concentrate on the benefits and downplay the friends part.
You may be buddy-buddy with chicks you’re intimate with, but oversharing can lead to dwindling returns in the sack.
They tease us with clever poems, roses, daily texts and calls, only to turn around in the blink of an eye and completely disappear or disappoint us.
Their behavior can be confusing, frustrating and maddening.