I make sure I’m on time, why can’t they do the same?On a typical date I’ll look at Google maps for the estimated drive time, under the heaviest traffic, then add a half hour. This lack of respect for other people’s time is rampant among single women in Los Angeles, it happens too often to be a fluke.The second is that some men are apparently hoping Linked In is the new Ashley Madison.Like many women (and men), I signed up to Linked In to connect with professionals in order to enhance my career prospects.The evidence for this is both anecdotal (everyone’s dad loves Linked In) and statistical (37 percent of Linked In’s users are over 50, users skew predominantly male, and fully 85 percent are 30 or older).
That’s perhaps why women are more in the role of hunting for partners, and women play the role of waiting to be hunted.
“You have the opportunity to make an impact here.” Tellis glows as she discusses empowering others through music, environment and education. When asked to characterize Grand Rapids, a sense of pride accompanies her descriptions of community-oriented, entrepreneurial and kind West Michiganders.
Tellis says, “The most sincere people I’ve ever met in my life live here.” For others, the descriptor most mentioned is "conservative." Go to college, get married, start a family—growing up, that’s how Carola Carassa, 25 and single, imagined her early 20s would pan out.
While dating in Los Angeles, another common thread is appropriate appearance. Showing up for a date in Uggs boots, sweat pants and a torn top might convey you’re laid back and easy going, but shouldn’t some semblance of effort be made for a first meeting, even if it’s just for coffee?
On the other extreme, I once had a lunch date with a woman who showed up wearing 5-inch stiletto heels, a dress that barely covered her rear-end and over-flowing cleavage.