If your partner makes threats like this, they’re putting you in a really tough spot.This type of threat is called blackmail, and you might feel like you have no option but to do what your partner says.Despite this, he would still be outside of my house, yelling through the letter box, standing in my back garden yelling in the garden. But remember that this is exactly what the sociopath has done to you. It is important that he is not aware what you are doing. And as it is different to the reality he can do no further damage.I had complaints from my neighbours, and lived in constant fear of what he would do next. What you have to do is take away – remove his control over you. When you are doing it, it will be an enlightening (and therefore healing) process to do. It won’t take back what he has done to you, but it will help you to get even and to teach him that you are not a weak person.Unfortunately, dating sites and apps can allow men and women to have secret interactions and flirtations and in some cases, entire relationships, without the risk of their husbands or girlfriends catching them in the act.Fortunately, these sites aren't as safe and anonymous as would be adulterers and cheaters would like to believe.Being scornful and bitter will only show him how important he was to you. Coming to terms with the betrayal you feel when someone hurts or cheats you is never an easy thing to deal with.This will just serve to flatter his ego; besides you will only look like a psycho ex if you become too impulsive and angry. Many times it's because of what we believed we were building, and the great expectations for time and a future together.
So what can you do if your partner is blackmailing you and trying to get you to do something you don’t want to do?
Note: The following is not advisable if you have children with the sociopath, or if the sociopath is violent. Most sites advise that the best way to get revenge on a sociopath is to have no further contact with them.
For some people, establishing no contact does not work. Or, the stalking/harassment/smear campaigns and threats have become so serious, that you are desperate for it to stop, and to avoid further damage to your life.
Threats are not a sign of love or care, but of manipulation and control.
You never deserve to be threatened, no matter what, and you are never responsible for your partner’s choice to be abusive.