You do the math.” These quotes are some of the things divorced or separated women have said to me in the past few years, and I have to say, I can certainly relate. And there were times I seriously couldn’t believe why God would keep sending me loser after loser after loser. I was leaving a bad, bad situation that brought me to tears for years before I officially got separated.
” “My ex already has a girlfriend and I haven’t been on one date in over a year. ” “There are so many wonderful, smart, beautiful divorced women out there and all the men are either drug addicts, alcoholics, psychos, control freaks or cheaters. I had a few situations that were so unbelievable, that the stories ended up in my novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE.
Crew catalog, others will think there is something wrong with you. Few people have this life and if you were living it would you be happy? It is better to wait until the end of time, rather than to have a temporary boyfriend or girlfriend, especially just for ‘boom-boom’. You are distracting yourself from your real purpose of finding a mate. I think it is strange if someone says ‘I do not need someone’. If you do not need someone, you one messed up person. Do not feel the need to apologize that you are single or feel ashamed. European girls are not lonely because they are honest that they want to meet someone.
If you are not chewing the fat on the weekends with some group of friend at a clam bake watching the sun set, having dry wine and french cheese than you are not living. It does not allow you to feel the full pain of being single and lonely, therefore, push you to action. It just means you have the courage of your convictions to wait. For example, if you started to talk to these European beauties they would be probability be thanking you, if they were single.
Why is it that Americans feel the need to almost apologize when they are looking for someone?
Not only was I going through the pain of a divorce, mourning the failure of my marriage, dealing with my two young kids’ feelings about daddy moving out, and worrying about finances, but now I had to go back out there into the nightmare world of dating?! And the unknown was semi-attractive, in the sense that at least it wasn’t “the known” which was constant fighting, misery, fear, sadness and loneliness. (Why can't two people just skip to the good parts? I'm not what you would call a "people person" and the idea of making awkward small talk while eating or drinking is not what I consider a good time. Sometimes it's sweet in a "it's a small world" type of way, but usually I'd just like a fresh crop of guys who haven't been privy to my awkward teen years, beacuse let's face it: Braces are kind to nobody.6. Think you're in this match-making business alone? ESPECIALLY if you're over thirty and your poor, aging mother wants a grandbaby.7. I'm not the most well-traveled person, but I have been overseas a handful of times. On most dates, I'm the only one who has traveled outside of the country. Traveling IS expensive, but it's a little jarring to meet folks who have never stepped foot outside of Indiana. I recently had a friend move down from Chicago, and I got a text exclaiming, "Everyone is so small! Just the other day Match suggested a man I went to elementary school with. Everyone has an opinion about why you're still single/what type of guy you should be dating/what you should be wearing/where you should be looking. Although dating in the Midwest is a team sport (See #6), the same people who love to talk about your love life usually don't have any prospects for you. And bonus points if the man/woman you marry is someone you went to highschool with! So if you don't fancy yourself a step-mom, you may have to look a little harder3. Maybe it's just Indiana, but we grow 'em short and sturdy here in my little corner of the Midwest. Someone always knows someone who knows someone who you went to high school or college with. Being set up is a thing that only happens in the movies. The number of times I've heard, "I'd set you up with someone, but I don't know anyone single! ” Sign up for our NEW ONLINE COURSE: The Rules for Everyone!